4 simple dating hacks that will guarantee a better dating experience
Looking for quick and easy ways to improve your dating experience? Dating coach Michael Valmont shares four of his best simple dating hacks
Enjoying your dates more – and getting more second dates – often comes down to a few simple, scientifically-proven, and easy to implement ideas. As one of the leading dating coaches in the UK, I’m going to be giving you some of my most useful dating hacks that you can use right now to ignite chemistry on a date.
Pretend you’re old friends
Many people get first date jitters. That’s completely normal. But if you find this happening to you a bit too often, this dating hack could drastically change how you appear on dates.
Ever heard of fake it ‘til you make it? Well, I want you to pretend that you already know your date and act like you would around an old friend. You wouldn’t be afraid to touch or tease them, for example. You certainly wouldn’t be afraid to compliment them either. The powerful thing about this technique is that if you believe and act like they’re an old friend, you’ll have a level of comfort and confidence that you wouldn’t have otherwise.
The only caveat I would add is that you should try to make it clear to your date that you’re attracted to them, perhaps with a cheeky compliment. Something you probably wouldn’t be doing with an old friend!
Use eye contact to your advantage
The quickest way to build rapport is through eye contact. Now, that doesn’t mean standing over them with your eyes bulging out but it also doesn’t mean shy, fleeting glances. Unfortunately, there’s no perfect sweet spot for the amount of eye contact to throw into a conversation, it depends on the person you’re talking to.
The trick is to make your eye contact mean something. Eye contact when you’re talking is fine but eye contact during a brief silence? That’s meaningful – and a great way to create chemistry.
Share your emotions with your date
Now, I don’t mean launching into a monologue about how you didn’t get enough attention from your parents or you’re worried about old age. What I do mean is that once you feel you’ve built rapport, you have to make your partner mirror your emotion. This is surprisingly easily done through sincere eye contact, body mirroring and suggestion. Once you’ve made that connection, you can steer the conversation wherever you like.
Sow the seeds of your next date
So, you’re enjoying yourself and you want to meet them again. Great! Even so, we’ve all experienced those first dates where you feel like you’re both enjoying it but by the time you text or call to set up date number two, they’ve changed their mind.
How can you guarantee a second date? It’s called date seeding. This is where you plant the idea of your next date in their head before the first one is even over. Try something like, ‘Oh, you like Italian food? I know the best place, we have to go there.’ Plant the idea in their head and sell them on it. Get them to commit and you double your chances of a second date there and then.
Michael Valmont is a London based, world leading dating coach. He has given 100’s of seminars and been featured across the board on some of the biggest publications and media outlets across radio, TV and print publications. His well-known YouTube channel has over 6 million views and over 65,000 regular subscribers. He specialises in helping people become their most attractive self, improving their dating & attraction skills but also their self-image, self-esteem and confidence. He is also the founder of the world’s first dating university aimed at breaking down dating skills for men in an actionable format.